5 Happy Marriage Hacks Every Woman Should Know
The courtship stage is always so fun and exhilarating, especially for women. Here is a guy that you really think stands a chance of making you happy forever. Then boom, he proposes, you start shopping for wedding gowns, plan a destination wedding. Get married in front of your friends and family. Top it all up with a honeymoon vacation of a lifetime. Fast forward to the marriage life where you all move in together, have kids, and start planning on your future as one.
What most ladies don’t understand is that it takes more than saying ‘yes’ to live happily ever after. We both know that this is not a fairy tale because there are couples out there who have been married for decades and love each other to death. You know your husband better than anyone else, and how you bond or interact contributes to strengthening or weakening the relationship.
Do you crave a healthy and blissful marriage? Here are 5 happy marriage hacks every woman should know.
01.Respect Your Hubby
We live in a competitive world where most people believe that respect has to be earned. Although this is not far from the truth, most men desire to be respected in a marriage. It gives them a sense of purpose and contributes to their overall well being.
Bearing in mind that this is the man you have chosen to father your kids if you don’t show him respect no one will. Learn to listen to his opinions and correct him humbly when he is wrong. This will mean the world to him and he will share his joy with you.
02.Live in the Moment
One of the main things that newlyweds struggle with is being over-ambitious. You are six months in a new marriage and are already envisioning a bigger house, a luxurious car, yearly vacations to popular destinations, a higher salary, and plenty of other things.
Though there is nothing wrong with setting goals, being over-ambitious can dim your happiness. Live in the moment and enjoy what you have been blessed with. If you plan on a dinner date at home, light up the candles, play some relaxing music, and have the time of your life.
03.Know that Even the Happiest Couples Argue
It is impossible for a couple to live in agreement for the rest of their lives. Arguments are part and parcel of marriage. Therefore, expect to differ at one point in your life. You can disagree on a lot of things. And this doesn’t mean that you are unhappy.
After an argument, take time to reflect on your actions. It doesn’t matter who was in the wrong. Talk about things and find an amicable solution. Move on and learn from that experience. Never hold grudges against your husband.
04.Understand that There is Power in Communication
Talk about everything and anything. We, women, tend to overuse the ‘You should know why I’m mad’ game a LOT. Although it can be fun at times, most men are wired to be ‘insensitive and clueless’. You can complain all year round on how much you don’t like it when he leaves the toilet seat up. But he will still repeat the same mistake. Tell him how you feel and with time he will know you like the back of his hands. Learn to appreciate his strengths and forgive his shortcomings. After all, men are human beings and are vulnerable to making mistakes. When you know this, you will be less angry when he does something wrong.
05.Have Fun Together
Happy couples are those who share a passion, dream, hobby, or skill. Although it is not advisable to be fully dependent on your husband, having fun together goes a long way in strengthening your bond. When you both set aside time to play tennis or football together during the weekend or learn a new skill such as enrol for a cooking class. You will always be enthusiastic about doing that activity together. Find a common passion that you share with your husband and explore it.
As a woman, navigating through the ups and downs of a marriage can seem hectic but it’s worth it. When you choose to love someone, be ready to commit to them through good and bad times. Choose to be attracted to your spouse, be kind to him, never talk bad about him, laugh with each other, and follow the above 5 hacks. Your marriage will be filled with happiness and love.